My First Blog Entry!

So I enjoy reading the every day on goings of random people online.  A lot of people I can relate to, others I can't, but I always enjoy being "nosey" on other people's lives!  It's always interesting to see what other people do in their every day lives!  So in my attempt to satisfy other people's "nosey" tendencies, like my own, I decided to share my life story, with some censorship of course.  I will protect the identities of my children and myself.  So with that being said, let me introduce myself and my kids.

I am a 29 year old Single mommy.  I chose to be a single mommy at the end of 2005.  Started the new year of  2006 with a new life for my kids and I.  Prior to that point I lived with my boys father and my boys for 8 years.  We had two beautiful children together.  But that's all I can take out of that relationship.  Over the years the boys father was mentally and emotionally abusive to the boys and I.  It took me many years to build up the courage to leave him for the better of children and myself.  After leaving I had to, for the first time in my adult life, learn to be the sole "bread winner" for the family.  To keep my head afloat for the well being of my children.  It was a struggle, but I fell into routine fairly quickly.  I had a few dead end jobs that I worked at to get the bills paid, and finally realized that no matter how hard I tried I just wasn't advancing very far.  So I put myself back through cosmetology school, and got my state licensing.  Now I'm a licensed cosmetologist and have been working in the field for almost 2 years now.  And I love it!  I have had one significant relationship since leaving the boys father and that ended after 2 and a half years, because we just were two people that had different views for our lives.  I am currently ready to get back into the dating world and find myself a husband, and hopefully get my "American Dream" with the house with the white picket fence in the country, more kids and some puppies! LOL

Now my kids:

I have an 11 year old son....who since the whole separation from their father has developed or should I say been diagnosed with ADHD, Tic disorder, Anxiety, and Explosive Behavioral disorder.  So learning about each of these unique diagnosis and the medications and their alternatives that need to be incorporated into his life in order to give him a sense of normalcy, has been an exhausting everyday fact of life!  Other than that, he's like any other 11 year old boy.....wants to be older than he is, is going to be starting Middle School in the fall, is interested in music(wants to be a rock star when he grows up), and trying to learn what it is to be a man(even though he doesn't have many male role models in his life at this time).  His disorders do create a lot of tension in our home on a daily basis, but he's my little boy, and no matter what will fight the battle to get him where he needs to be in life.

I also have an 8 year old son.  He's a mommas boy, and because of that...I would say is pretty spoiled, and it's not a good thing..he can be whiny and has a tendency to be snotty, so he can get what he wants...but we are working on that.  He's the sweetest, most polite boy, in school, with family and friends, but get him home with me and watch out! LOL

I love my boys very much and wouldn't change them for the world!  We have our good days and our bad days...like any other family with kids.

My life as a single mom, can be very lonely and frustrating at times...but it's my life and I am determined to make it better...no matter how long it takes me!  The boys father hasn't seen them in about 3 years, and doesn't call, write letters, or send birthday cards...so I am a very single mother with no help at all....Child support hasn't been paid by him at all through all of this either.  But I have made it on my own and will continue to do so! 

Currently, I am trying my best to earn enough money to pay off my student loan debts and start saving for a home of our own.  Apartment living has really been taking it's toll on us. 

I have slowly been trying to occupy my "free time" with taking up new hobbies and interests.  Since the beginning of the year I have taught myself to Knit...which I'm trying each day to become better at.  Also have taken a large interest, in Frugality...which may sound funny...but anything I can do to save money and improve the quality of our lives I'm willing to do.  My hopes are to eventually be in our own home, with a large veggie garden in our back yard and being as self sufficient as possible....

I guess that's it for my first post.  I will update as often as I remember and can...as my interesting(or not) life unfolds.